So I guess relationships have been on my mind a lot lately. I'm not sure why but oh well, here's some more advice. ;)

So you meet someone you really like but you find out they _______ (fill in the blank). Whether it be smoking, drinking, have a crooked tooth, or you can't stand their relative. You can't try to change them. They are the only one that can decide if they want to change or not.

Let's say its smoking. I've dated my share of guys that smoke, it's not my favorite thing but I have never and will never ask a guy to quit for me. First of all they will blame you if you ask them. And second they are the only one that can decide to quit. I had a guy I dated who knew I didn't like it so he said he would quit. I told him if you want to quit do it for you not for me because I'm not asking you to. So he tried to kept saying he was going to but he never did. Which was fine with me. He smoked before I met him, and he still smokes to this day. I didn't try to change him because I liked him the way he was smoking and all. I'm kinda crazy and accept people flaws and all. I may not like their flaws but its what makes them who they are. We all have flaws it's what makes us human and what makes us different from everyone else.

Have a great day!
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Location:Don't Try to Change Someone

Son's of Pitches

My brother plays on a softball team with a bunch of his friends. They voted on names and came up with a very unique name Son's of Pitches. I thought they were joking at first but then I saw the jerseys and the logo make it that much more funny!!



It's especially funny when the parents start yelling Come On You Son's Of Pitches!!!! They have the most fans and the loudest fans at every game. I went to my first game last night and I hope I get to go to more before my brother leaves.




This is my brother and me. Isn't he handsome! Who do you think is older?

Hope you're having a wonderful Wednesday!

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There's a Purpose

I recently saw this tweet




It is how I've always felt about relationships. I'm the pickiest person you will ever meet when it comes to the guy I date. I don't want just anyone I want someone who compliments me and is my equal.


Now I think communication is key to a good relationship. If you like someone then talk to them, that lets them know you're interested. Ignoring someone can be taken the wrong way. And a little tip guys if a girl texts you and you don't respond for awhile she's gonna think you don't want to talk to her anymore. If you're busy then take 3 seconds and tell her, then when you have time call or text her. Guys another tip girls like guys to contact them first and chase them. Kinda like in kindergarten when guys would chase the girls during recess. I want a guy to chase me but if I want to talk to a guy I will text first because I like to live in the moment.


Now I have to add the reason I feel like someone isn't interested if they haven't responded to me within a few days or at least a week, is because that's what has happened to me in past relationships. Guys just stop talking to me randomly for no apparent reason. I understand that you don't like hurting someone but I would much rather someone say hey I don't see this going anywhere so let's be friends. Or maybe they don't want to be friends but I would rather someone tell me then ignore me. I'm one to dwell and blame myself, I assume that I must have done something somehow. It also hurts and honestly it's a respect thing.

I have talked to many guys and girls about relationships and some agree with me and some don't. But that whats so awesome because everyone's different and they see things differently. I read a book called the 5 Love Languages, here's the website http://www.5lovelanguages.com/ Check it out take the quiz and see what your love language is, it's important for relationships, friendships, coworkers, family, etc.. One of mine is quality time, I like for someone to hang out and pay attention to me basically. So go see what's your love language.




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